Episode 21: Why You Keep Having the Same Fight

And How to Finally Interrupt It

2.10.26 | Skills | 59 min

Having the same fight over and over can leave you feeling exhausted, disconnected, and unsure how to move forward. One person gets heated. The other shuts down. Nothing actually gets resolved, and the distance grows.

In this episode, we explore an evidence-based model (Transactional Model; Fruzetti, 2006) for understanding relationship conflict and why it so often becomes repetitive and intense. Using a real, honest conversation with a long-term couple, we walk through how vulnerability, interpretations, emotional escalation, inaccurate expression, and invalidation all interact to keep couples stuck. As always, we introduce specific tools that you can practice to interrupt these cycles and create real change.

Resources Mentioned:

Book: “The High Conflict Couple” by Alan Fruzzetti (2006)

Music Credit: Nathan Byrne with Reel Byrne Media.