Episode 10: It Takes Guts to Ask for What You Need

05.07.25 | Skills | 54 min

So many of us struggle to ask directly for what we want—or to say no—without guilt, overexplaining, or sacrificing our self-respect. In this episode, we introduce a practical skill from Dialectical Behavior Therapy called DEARMAN, a powerful framework for making requests and setting limits while preserving both the relationship and your sense of self.

We explore how this tool shows up in our lives, from negotiating dinner plans with a partner to asking for support to setting difficult boundaries with a relative. You’ll learn why asking clearly and kindly is often more effective than hoping someone just "gets it"—and how to practice this skill in ways that feel both respectful and empowered.

Music Credit: Nathan Byrne with Reel Byrne Media.